All children will receive lessons in how to manage their feelings under a multi-million pound scheme to improve classroom behaviour, Schools Secretary Ed Balls said.
Pupils will be taught about resolving conflict without fighting through citizenship lessons and how to be good losers in PE.
Mr Balls announced that £13.7 million would be spent over the next four years to fund the national roll-out of the social and emotional aspects of learning (Seal) programme to secondary schools.
The initiative, which has already been successful in primary schools, comes amid continuing concern over poor standards of behaviour.
Mr Balls said: "Many schools that have implemented this programme have seen a marked improvement in the way their pupils interact with each other both inside and outside the classroom.
"The programme will make sure that all children understand the importance of being confident and interacting with other children in a respectful and positive manner."
Officials said the programme aims to help pupils "manage strong feelings such as frustration, anger and anxiety" and "recover from setbacks".
It also sets out to teach pupils the value of competing fairly, losing with dignity and having respect for their competitors.
The Seal scheme is already running in 10,000 primary schools - about 60% of the primaries in England. The secondary school Seal programme will be rolled out from this September.
The announcement follows the introduction of new powers for teachers to discipline unruly pupils and use "reasonable force".
